2018 was a good year for women putting aside their differences, defying stereotypes and deciding to support each other instead of tearing each other down. And we are so here for it.
Female friendships are still way too rare in the media. It’s like writers forget that it’s possible to have two women talk to each other on screen without fighting for no apparent reason. Or that women who are friends usually have more than one conversation a year.
What is it about female friendships that’s so hard for writers to believe? Is it that weird that all my closest friends are women? Am I supposed to hate them? They don’t seem that hard to understand!
But this article isn’t about complaining about the ridiculous lack of women who talk to each other in movies, tv and books, though I could certainly write a whole post about that. No, today is about celebrating all the amazing women who are, by some miracle, allowed to actually get along. When fictional women become friends, it is a magical thing. Here are just a few of our favourite female friendships from 2018.
Eleanor Shellstrop and Tahani Al-Jamil – The Good Place
Eleanor and Tahani’s friendship in season three of The Good Place came as a surprise to a lot of people. These two women were literally put together specifically for the purpose of torturing each other, after all. It was perfectly set up: Tahani is an obnoxious rich person who flaunts her virtues and looks down on everyone else, and Eleanor is a self-proclaimed terrible person who hates good people because they make her feel insecure. Most shows would make them rivals, because that’s the dynamic that makes sense for them, but The Good Place isn’t most shows.
Despite the odds, and despite their total incompatibility, Eleanor and Tahani have become one our favourite female friendships on TV. They still annoy each other, yes, but they’ve proven that they’re a really good team.
Rebecca, Paula, Valencia and Heather – Crazy Ex Girlfriend
One thing Crazy Ex Girlfriend has always done extremely well is female friendships. In 2018, the Girl Group grew even stronger. Rebecca and Paula continued to be endlessly supportive of each other, and Valencia and Heather both took on much bigger roles in Rebecca’s life. Our protagonist went through a whole lot of shit this year, and a big part of her journey was finally learning to lean on her friends instead of chasing after men. She’s still working on it, but she’s certainly gotten a lot closer to the other women in her life, and their friendship has been great to see.
Amy Santiago and Rosa Diaz – Brooklyn Nine-Nine
Brooklyn Nine-Nine had quite the year, with a cancellation and an epic fan campaign to get it picked up again. One of the best things about this show, and there are many, is the kind of unexpected but absolutely amazing friendship between Amy and Rosa. It’s yet another case of women who are extremely different people coming together and working so well.
Maggie, Regina and Delilah – A Million Little Things
A Million Little Things is all about friendships of all kinds. It’s about, as the title suggests, the little things that bring people together. And while the focus may be on men learning to be vulnerable, that doesn’t mean the women don’t get to grow closer together.
Kara Danvers and Lena Luthor – Supergirl
I know, I know. It feels almost wrong to put these two on a list of female friendships when they have enough romantic chemistry for their relationship to be a pretty clear case of queerbaiting. Still, canonically they are just friends, and it’s a lovely friendship. Like so many of the women on this list, they were perfectly set up to be enemies, but said fuck this toxic idea that women can’t be friends and decided to defy convention. Can I just say this is is an amazing trope and I hope it never goes away?
Would these two make the most epic and powerful couple on television if the writers ever put them together? Probably. But their friendship is pretty great too.
Anne, Diana, Ruby, and Jane – Anne With An E
How could I not put Anne on this list? Anne is the queen of female friendships. Her shameless love for other girls is revolutionary and beautiful. Season 2 celebrated her relationships with the other girls at school. Through all her adventures, her ridiculous schemes, they were right there by her side. Her ties to her female friends were so strong, and so nice to see on TV.
Emma Carstairs and Christina Rosales – Queen of Air and Darkness by Cassandra Clare
Cassandra Clare is amazing at writing relationships of all kinds, and in The Dark Artifices she finally delivered on an epic friendship between two kickass women. Emma and Christina came into each other’s lives at exactly the right moment, and they work seamlessly as a team. There’s no drama. No pettiness. No jealousy. Just two amazing women supporting each other through extremely tough times.
Do I kind of ship them? Absolutely. Have I been reading fanfiction about them? Possibly. But I also love them as friends.
The Song sisters – To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before
To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before, a Netflix original adapted from Jenny Han’s book of the same name, was one of the best TV shows to come out of 2018. People have been rightfully swooning over the romance, but a criminally underrated aspect of both the show and the book is the incredible relationship between Lara Jean, Kitty and Margot. They have their issues, of course, but don’t all siblings? At the end of the day, they’re always there for each other.
Claire and Marsali – Outlander
We can’t believe this is on our list either, but the way their relationship has grown over the course of the series has been so nice to watch. It’s happened slowly, in little scenes, but it’s turning into a beautiful friendship and we can’t wait to see more of the two of them.
Willowdean, Ellen, Millie and Hannah – Dumplin’
Dumplin’ came out just in time for this list to be written, and if you haven’t checked it out on Netflix yet, you’re missing out. It’s a story of self-acceptance, yes, but it’s also a story of four incredible young women coming together, working through their differences, and doing something amazing. It’s about women of all kinds and their relationships with each other.
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