Until I started watching This Is Us, I had never really seen a character that I relate to. I see the supermodel looking characters, the geeky looking characters, but I have never seen the fat girl who isn’t comedic relief.
I have never seen me.
I didn’t start watching This Is Us for that character. Quite the opposite. I wanted to see what the tie in was – how all the characters fit together. So when I sat down for the first episode, I got that answer. But I also got more. I got the show that I didn’t know I was missing.
From the moment that Chrissy walked onto the screen as Kate – I finally felt like someone understood me. As an overweight person, my life is consumed by – hell it revolves around my weight. The acceptance of it, the denial of it, and the coming to terms of it. But when people look at a person like me – a fat person – they automatically assume that my life revolves around food.
Food is an after thought. The exercise, the way that clothes fit, the perception of the people around me – that all comes first. I don’t obsess over food because the only thing I think about is not eating. I worry more about that than actually eating. So finding that balance of food – I work hard on it – as I see Kate do every week.
But what I have to give props to the writers of This Is Us for is not sharing Kate and Toby’s weight.
It came out that Chrissy is contractually obligated to loose weight for her role in the show.
“In our contract, it did state that that would be a part of it, to lose the weight in the trajectory of the character as she comes to find herself. That was a win-win for me. Because it’s one thing to try to do it on your own. But as human beings, it’s an ego thing: We’re more likely to do something for someone else.” Chrissy said to TVLine.
We see every week the character of Kate struggle with her weight and attend her weight loss support groups. This past episode, when Kate weighed in and lost a little over a pound. The show decided not to show her weight and some asked why. Was it something to be ashamed of?
Truth is – weight is a deeply personal journey and not showing their weight isn’t something that signify’s shame. It signify’s the personal aspect of the journey.
For me – deciding not to show it meant that she could be anyone at any weight. It was about the struggle – the hard work for such a minimal reward. But it makes us take a step back and realize that we are not the only ones going through that struggle. We all have our own burdens to bear.
Weight isn’t everyones burden.
But it is a personal one. The way that This Is Us has handled it has made this fatty feel less alone.
Thank you This Is Us, for handling it with class.