If you ask anyone who grew up with me, they will all agree that I was the biggest tomboy ever. I faced the struggles of being a tomboy girl every day and still do as an adult.
One of my earliest memories as a kid is of me feeling annoyed at my mom or grandmother because they were dressing me like a doll. I hated skirts and dresses since I can remember and it wasn’t because I disliked the way they looked on me. They were just impractical and all I wanted to do was run around playing like all of the boys.
I’m sure I’m not the only one and I also think it’s ridiculous that there is such a term as a tomboy because ultimately behaviors, in my opinion, don’t need to be categorized by gender.
1. People Think You’re Doing It for Attention
I kid you not when I say that, as an 8-year-old child, some of the parents of my male friends were always telling me to stop acting like a boy, because that seemed, to them, like a cry for attention. They also told me I didn’t need to impress them to like me and that they would like me better if I acted like a girl.
Let me remind you, these were comments coming from adults. I don’t remember many kids my age minding whether I was acting like a “boy” or not. Another comment that I received a lot as a kid was that it was inappropriate for a girl to only have male friends. (I’m rolling my eyes as I write this one!)
2. Your Sexuality is Questioned
Unsurprisingly, a lot of people automatically assumed that I was gay.
Seems to me like they couldn’t wrap their heads around the fact that a girl would want to hang out with only guys and be heterosexual at the same time. Not that I was straight, but I know a lot of other tomboy women that are completely and utterly heterosexual and they still get questioned.
3. People Make Fun of What You Wear
Small minds will make fun of a person that doesn’t comfort to society’s norms. This includes being a girl that doesn’t wear heels, skirts, dresses, makeup, etc.
What’s worse is that whenever I did want to dress up “girly” they would make fun of me for “trying” to be a girl. I guess there’s no winning with them.
4. Your Idea of Being a Woman is Different
Being a woman doesn’t need to be a constrictive state of being.
Women, more so than ever, are fighting for equality and part of that equality is not being associated as a tomboy for doing things that are regularly labeled as boyish.
We can be womanly and be tomboys at the same time. These two behaviors are not in conflict with one another. I think it’s about time people realize this.
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