There is a lot to unpack when it comes to any relationship. Be it a family relationship, a friendship, a romantic relationship. There is always a lot to unpack and learn from. The saddest thing (to me) is that there is no exemption from all the overwhelming feelings that relationships can bring, because of how fucked up that life can be.
And that’s just the truth – life is a fucked up experience and we never really know what anyone is going through. We can make our assumptions and have our guesses, the the truth about life is that we really know nothing and we’re learning everyday.
For Pippa, Lucy, and Bree, these three have learned a lot in life, but what we’re seeing is that we are four episodes in and we truly know nothing about who they are. We know who they are trying to be, but I feel as though it’s because that we don’t know who they are that I am finding so many issues and lack of understanding as to why they are doing shit that they should not do. But lets break down this shit show where you just want to crawl through the television and tell them to be smarter.
It’s Halloween and that’s always a big holiday on campus. Parties, fun, and a million things happening. But while everyone is choosing their costumes and figuring out a million logistics for parties, Lucy isn’t doing that.
She’s planning a night in with Stephen, because he’s packing to go to New York for an interview for an internship at a law firm. Lucy is trying to say that it’s okay, but there is a part of her that makes it obvious that she’s upset that he’s leaving.
Lucy is willing to sacrifice her time and herself to be there for Stephen, not realizing that he’s not now, nor will he ever be willing to do that for her.
Stephen is all sorts of fucked up. He’s using Lucy, but for what I am not sure. Lucy wants to do everything that she can to gain his approval and acceptance, at the expense of her own sanity and heart.
Stephen lies to her and says that he’s staying at Evan’s families loft in New York. Evan doesn’t say anything against it, even though he knows that it is a lie. The reality is that Stephen is staying at Diana’s families loft and Evan calls him on it in private.
Stephen, in my opinion, knows that he is saying and doing wrong, but also doesn’t know how to stop himself. He’s out for what he thinks can get him ahead and where he can feel secure in himself. But again, these are assumptions, because we really don’t even know anything about him.
And I think that is where I am a little frustrated. I am frustrated because as this story unfolds, we can’t understand these characters, because we don’t know their motivation. Granted there is no excuse for what Stephen does.
Lucy and her friends are young – yes. But all of them have lived a life where they should know a little more about themselves. Lucy – there is something we are not getting.
When Stephen calls she jumps. She makes her whole life about him. We know, because she tells us, that the sex is great, and if we’re going by the shit we’re raised off of, then we know sex is great when we’re in love. But personally, I think that it has to do with lust also.
And this episode has Stephen heading to New York for a job interview and when he fucks it up, calling Lucy to come to the city. He puts all of the pictures of Diana and her family away. He invites her in to a home that he has no right to invite her into. He fucks her against a desk that he has no right to. And when she voices her insecurities about their relationship, he turns that on her and infers that she is putting him down.
What I hate is seeing Lucy take the blame for Stephen’s actions. It makes me worry about what she’s been through and what she’s done. But it also makes me worry about her. Stephen knows what he’s doing. He knows that he’s making her into something that she’s not.
He’s making her fearful of voicing her feelings and opinions. He’s making her fearful of upsetting him. He’s gaslighting her.
He is using her. He is abusing her. And Lucy is just there every single time he needs her, calls her, tells her he needs her. The truth is, I can see why she does it, because we as humans, to a certain point, are always looking to find acceptance and love. I just hate it at the same time, because it’s so toxic and fuck her up on a level that will screw up her entire life.
STEPHEN THE FUCK FACE
Stephen has gone to New York for an interview for an interview for an internship. Rather than rely on who he is as a person, he decides that he needs to be someone else. He lies and makes excuses for things, versus just relying on his knowledge. He’s so wanting to fit in that he takes himself for granted.
But is it even that? Personally, I think that Stephen doesn’t know who he is. He lies about going to Europe and gets caught. He lies about traveling. He lies about everything.
Yet, he still can’t accept his own responsibility in any situation. He expects other to figure out things for him versus him figuring himself out. He blames others for his own issues. He finds fault in everyone else but himself. He’s an asshole.
In life we are all wanting to fit in, but when you’re trying to fit in at the expense of yourself, that’s not fitting in at all.
For Bree, she wants to fit in and part of that is sex. She’s a virgin and she claims that she just wants to loose her virginity. It’s just not something that you get over with though and hearing Bree act like it is, makes me sad.
But also her friends not really trying to see that she’s struggling through this, and they’re just like have it, makes me sad for her. And it especially makes me sad, because she decides that her first time should be with Tim.
Tim is a douche. He’s hot, sure. He’s got beautiful abs, sure. But he’s a douche and he’s one of those guys who is all about being a fuckboy versus being a man. Bree is enamored though and she decides that he’s the one.
But like so many of us her first time sucked. He was a five pump chump, not caring about her, but happy he got off. For Tim, it’s about putting someone else on the roster. For Bree, it means a lot.
But it was horrible. It was painful. It sucked. Lucy and Pippa don’t get that she’s covering up just how bad it was and is afraid of what others will say. She tells them it will get better, minimizing her own feelings.
I think to a certain point we all want things to get better after the first time. Her second time is worse though, and Tim hurts her. He won’t listen to her and she’s left feeling horrible about herself.
But the second time is traumatically worse. Tim is an asshole and pays no attention when she tells him that she’s in pain and asks for her own needs to be met. I actually wanted to beat Tim up for her.
Bree holds it all in, until a party, where Tim acts like she doesn’t exist. She’s taken a back. Now the reason that I love that this is in there, is because on a personal level I have been there and it made me feel like other people had too and I felt less alone. I think that it’s a moment, like several other moments in TV, that even though it’s hard, it’s a moment where others can feel seen.
Bree doesn’t back down though and confronts him. As if Tim isn’t enough of an asshole, he tells her that they can’t hook up anymore because she didn’t tell him she was a virgin and it’s not right that she put that pressure on him.
First of all Tim – you’re a dick. You’re a piece of shit. Bree didn’t owe you anything because it’s none of your business. That’s her business. Second, you putting it back on her – fuck off. Third of all Tim, you’re a chump (look, chump was my word of the day today, let me live).
Rather than Bree being able to talk to her friends, she just acts like she is over it and that the sex wasn’t that good. They think that she had sex once and developed standards.
It seems like the only person who is seeing Bree is Evan (about time, want to see how these two come together). When getting the mail, the two have a conversation and he gets to know her. We get to know her.
Bree tells Evan that she is a foster child and grew up in foster care. She hasn’t talked about it and none of her friends have asked. She doesn’t want to talk about it all the time either because she just wants to fit in. And sometimes that fitting in and being silent means that she’s boring.
Evan and Bree seem to understand and get each other. They feel natural around each other, and they are able to talk about things so easily, without hesitation and embarrassment. They just feel natural around each other. LOVE THEM.
Everyone deserves someone that will respect and love and honor them. Bree deserves that in her life and it is very nice to see someone respecting her.
The reality is that I wanted to like Pippa, but right now I don’t. I don’t because she’s keeping the biggest secret for a dude, but also taking her friendships for granted, not to mention – the fact that people deserve to be in trouble for keeping what happened with Macy a secret. It’s not right at all.
I do understand that Pippa likes Wrigley, but regardless of that, she’s not putting herself first. She’s not taking care of herself and it’s showing. She’s moody and distant with her friends. There is no dick that is worth all of this.
Pippa comes across as complex, but what she’s acting like is a selfish brat. She’s making me so angry, because there is no part of her that should be willing to keep this secret for Wrigley and Drew.
Do I know that Drew made a mistake? Yes. He made a huge one. He left the scene of an accident. But now they are all accessories to the crime and they are all suffering in their own way.
I am so thankful that Lucy asked her if they were good at the end and it drew Pippas attention to how she was acting. It is a good thing that she needs to realize the way that she’s acting and I hope that she comes clean.
No one deserves to have the weight of the secret that she does on her.
- I can’t even talk about Bree and Drew, cause the way she fucks with his emotions to make herself feel better, not ok.
- Wrigley basically outing Stephen for being an asshole and being with Diana… more of that please.
- Why is Stephen so obsessed with that painting.
- Diana knowing who Stephen is and still being with him – think better of yourself.
- The whole doing blow scene was weird.
- I can’t with how much I hate all the men in this show, but Evan.
- Seriously, are all the men in this show the lowest of the low?
- Lucy… be better.
- Pippa… you have got to be better.
- Bree, if you can’t be yourself, we have an issue.
Tell Me Lies is streaming now on Hulu.