The patriarchy that has been set deep into our society has made it very hard for women, but also for men as well. Harmful standards regard physical appearance, attitude, and sex life have complicated the way men think, making them undermine their feelings and worries to not seem weak in front of their peers. There are enough types of bulky, rough men with incredible stamina on TV, but today we’d like to talk about those who challenge the standards of toxic masculinity by just being themselves.
1. Charles Boyle (Brooklyn 99)
Detective Boyle of the 99th precinct has captured the hearts of viewers by being his dorky self. Boyle has no shame to show off his hobbies and skills that are historically associated with femininity, such as baking, cooking, and dancing, and loves to love his best friend Jake, often being affectionate in different ways. Charles is also a devoted dad to his son Nikolaj and takes parenting very seriously, going to incredible lengths to make his son the happiest boy in Brooklyn.
2. David Rose (Schitt’s Creek)
The oldest of the Rose children is unapologetically himself, and that’s enough for every viewer. David doesn’t let gender norms affect the way he dresses and can be seen wearing skirts every now and then on the show, alongside graphic sweaters and big sunglasses. He’s also a very proud pansexual man and is always respectful to the people he’s attracted to. Even if sometimes he has problems expressing how he feels, he does it in his very David way, whether it’s being dramatic or by just lying in bed and telling his family he’s going to die.
3. Chidi Anagonye (The Good Place)
Chidi Anagonye is a big softie with a giant brain, and we love him for that. He’s always willing to lend a hand to anybody who needs help, or an ear if any of his friends need to vent. Chidi also sees the best in people, and recognizes his mistakes (alongside everyone else’s), always trying to make his wrongs right. He admits when situations are too much for him (and cause a big stomach-ache), and loves all of the differences between him and his girlfriend Eleanor, never making her feel less than him.
4. Chris Traeger (Parks and Recreation)
Pawnee’s beloved auditor is a very emotional man who has no problem showing vulnerability. Even if he’s had trouble with romantic relationships, he looked for help from a therapist to understand his feelings in a better way, always recommending therapy to whoever may need it. Chris is very cheerful and energetic, and these traits translate to his various interests, including fancy cooking and yoga.
5. Amenadiel (Lucifer)
The first of God’s angels has had an incredible character development since the beginning of the series, learning the value of trust in family and friends. Amenadiel is a dedicated stay-at-home dad to his son Charlie, making him his number one priority, often seeking parenting advice from his (mostly female) friends, and has a healthy co-parenting relationship with his son’s mother. He’s always willing to listen and give heartfelt advice to whoever needs it, encouraging vulnerability when needed and offering protection.
Which characters do you know that challenge the concept of toxic masculinity? Let us know in the comments section below!