Dating is a bitch. Seriously, it’s not a good time at all. We do know that a lot of people enjoy it and to them, we ask for advice, because we are apparently doing it wrong.
We learned a lot listening to Priyanka Chopra Jonas on Call Her Daddy. She talked about dating before Nick Jonas sliding into her DM’s (is that what we’re doing wrong, not reading our DM’s?). We loved that Chopra-Jonas spoke openly and frankly about dating.
“I went from relationship to relationship to relationship. I did not give myself time at all between relationships, till my last one. I always ended up dating the actors that I worked with or the people that I met on my set. I just thought I had an idea of what a relationship should be like, and I kept seeking that and trying to fit the people that came into my life into my idea of that relationship,” she said.
We definitely do understand that more than we care to admit, but also, no shame in admitting it. We call it being selective and not alone (Please, no one tell our therapist that).
She did realize that she needed to make changes in her life and spoke about why relationships before Nick Jonas failed, “The repeating of the mistake was always feeling like, I need to be the caretaker, always feeling like it’s okay to cancel my job or my work or my meeting or my priority to make sure that he’s propped up. It was so normalized in my brain for so long that I ended up giving the power in such a skewed way that I never stood up for myself. I literally would become like a doormat and I was like, okay, that’s fine because, you know, that’s what women have been told for such a long time that our role is to glue the family together or you’ve got to make your man feel comfortable when he comes back home.”
It’s like she crawled into our minds, because we relate to that more than we care to admit. Like our therapist would love unpacking that one, but we’re not ready to dive into that with our therapists. We do admire though that Chopra-Jonas realized that she knew she needed a change. So how is Nick Jonas different than all of her past relationships?
Chopra-Jonas said, “I think he thrives on seeing me shine. He’s the most excited about the shows that I’m doing, he was most excited, you know, when I’m on a carpet. He’ll step aside and he’ll take like pictures of me.”
“That’s what you want. You want your man to be your champion. You don’t want your man to be insecure by you. Or intimidated by you. I’m an alpha girl, I’m an ambitious girl. I’m not ashamed of that. I’ve built my career on my own back…my fortune’s mine. You don’t want to be with a guy who dims your shine, or feels the need to take away from you even for a moment.”
We LOVE her openness and willingness to talk about anything and everything, especially her relationships.
Have you listened to her Call Her Daddy episode yet? Are you a fan of Call Her Daddy?