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Caity Lotz destroyed my love for Sara Lance from DC’s Legends of Tomorrow with a series of tweets preaching about loving those who oppress. Initially I thought my anger was a result of RBG dying. My feelings were all over the place when Caity tweeted out her hot garbage. I didn’t know if I was projecting my RBG loss feels, or actually facing a reality where the actor who plays one of my favorite queer characters showed their ass. To put it mildly. After some soul searching, time, and listening to counter arguments to my position, I’ve come to the following conclusion.
My love for Sara Lance is gone, went poof, never to be seen again. And all because Caity Lotz decided to tweet that we should love Biden voters and Trump voters in equal measure. Excuse me? You mean the man who has called vulnerable communities rapists? You mean the man who made sexist remarks about “grabbing ’em by the pussy?” You mean the man who ignores the pain of black communities because it doesn’t fit his aesthetic. We should treat him and his voters who think like him…with love?
When it was brought to her attention by her fans, aka the people that love her and just want the best for her, that her words hurt them, she doubled down. Caity made it seem like her fans, even the ones in communities Trump has endangered, were the bad people for not seeing their oppressors as humans who fuck up, mess up, and make a general mess of things. And it’s true, the fucking up part. We all fuck up, no matter who we are. But there’s a line, Caity Lotz. That line is human rights, and it seems like you don’t understand that.
I will not, and no one should, treat my oppressors – as part of the Latinx and queer community – with kid gloves. They certainly aren’t treating my people with kindness, understanding, and respect. No, they are taking away my communities rights to live, breathe, and grow in this country. They are hiding their cruelty under the guise of religion. And they are performing acts of genocide, imposing measures intended to prevent births, along the southern border of the United States.
But I’m supposed to meet them halfway? I’m supposed to search out love first when so much hate is being directed my way? When human rights are being trampled on? That is an irresponsible way of thinking to say the least, Caity. Having this attitude is unrealistic and comes from a place of privilege. And I’m tired of it. I’m tired of this performative feminism from Caity, where she acts like she’s part of our community, as a jumping off point to sell a product aka herself, until things get hard and she shows her ass.
And then there were her responses, people. Caity was acting flippant in her replies to fans who were bringing up legit concerns when it came to her words. She was asking them to try harder, and if they’ve actually given our oppressors an opportunity. (Just to clarify, Caity didn’t use the word oppressors. But that’s what they are to the community that she is speaking to, and her ignorance on this makes her standing up for the LGBTQ community seem like performative feminism.) Again, as if it’s on our shoulders to meet these people halfway or all the way, if we’re being honest.
It’s ridiculous. It’s ignorant. And it shows Caity Lotz’s true colors.
Unfortunately that stains Sara Lance’s character as well. I will always appreciate the character and how she made people feel seen. And I will hold those Avalance moments close to my heart. But I will no longer watch/catch up on DC’s Legends of Tomorrow or support Sara Lance. And it’s truly a shame because last I left off, Avalance was doing well and showing the world that queer relationships can have these small, important, and tender moments in the midst of chaos and adventures.
It’s all because of Caity and her performative feminism.
It’s all because of Caity not understanding the community that has adopted her.
It’s all because of Caity ignoring the realities of what minorities have suffered at the hands of those she wants us to make friends with.
The only thing I can hope for is perspective coming down on her hard. But with the way that she doubled down when people noted that human rights can’t be excused or should be, I sincerely doubt that she’ll see the light and understand why her fans are so disappointed and feeling let down. But, here’s hoping!
Queerly Not Straight posts every Tuesday with opinion pieces, listicals, reviews, and more focused on the LGBT community (and occasionally about the Latinx community since I am Latinx.)