I don’t ever like talking about weight, because I think that it is a very personal thing. No matter your weight, people have insecurities and are finding a way to accept their body for what it is.
Society has ingrained in us that weight is something that we can talk about, comment on, and encourage people with. But the reality is that it’s not our place to do these things.
When people have a large weight loss, people feel the need to comment on it. When people gain weight, people feel the need to comment on it. But weight shouldn’t be something that we are talking about.
For her, working out was a way to deal with all of the anxiety that she was having surrounding her divorce.
“[Working out] was about my anxiety, mainly. I had the most terrifying anxiety attacks after I left my marriage — it made me so confused and made me feel as if i had no control over my body,” she said.
“I noticed how much I trusted my trainer’s presence when I was feeling so lost, but also I didn’t have any anxiety when I was out at the gym,” she continued saying (and we’d like to say what she’s saying makes perfect sense). “It became my time — me having a plan everyday when I had no plans.”
I can understand that. For me walking has helped with anxiety attacks and made me feel more comfortable, giving me a way to calm things down and have control when I feel out of control.
But for Adele, the world had a lot of negative comments about her weight loss, feeling as though they had the right to comment. But how did it phase Adele?
“I [wasn’t] shocked or even phased by it — my body has been objectified my entire career. Am I too big or am I too small, am I hot or not or whatever — I never looked up to anyone because of their body,” she said.
“I was body positive then and I’m body positive now,” Adele continued. “It’s not my job to validate how people feel about their bodies. I feel bad that it’s made anyone feel horrible about themselves, but that’s not my job.”
We agree with Adele. Do you?