Love is Blind season 5 tests what it means to fall in love…again. Do looks, money, and other things matter when it comes to matters of the heart? Or can you fall in love with someone sight unseen? Again, we are watching a bunch of hopefuls navigate these questions in season 5 of the series. And since we can’t control ourselves (as evidenced by our season 5 episodes breakdown for 1-4 and 5-7), here is our breakdown of the episodes 8-9!
1. How do you think Milton handled the conversation with Uche? What was Uche trying to achieve?
Lizzie: I think Milton handled that perfectly. He didn’t give Uche any air to fan the flames, he was just calm, collected and confident. He let Uche talk himself into a corner and then basically went, okay, that’s our truth. You done talking? Cause I’m out. Talk to you later (except not). It was perfection.
Now, what was Uche trying to achieve? Harder question. He hits all the narcissist boxes for me, and narcissists just want to make everything about themselves and be the center of attention. But I think a part of him also wanted to hurt Lydia, because of the way he perceives she “hurt” him. He’s incapable of realizing that he lost Aaliyah because of his own choices and that he was the one who hurt Lydia. He truly had some nerve to come to the party with his BS about her watching some Instagram stories (really, dude?) and call her a stalker, when he cheated on her, probably left her feeling vulnerable and insecure — and then seemed to literally blame her for the feelings he caused. Miss me with all of that. I hope I don’t have to see Uche’s face ever again.
Lyra: Milton reacted to that conversation with Uche in a way that I don’t think I would ever be capable of or have seen on Love is Blind. In many ways I feel things in the same way that Lydia does. And I would probably pop off before taking this calm and collected approach that Milton did. And it was an approach that didn’t disrespect Uche, Lydia, or Milton himself. Within that, Uche was hella confused and deflated like a balloon. Because he really thought he was going to run circles around Milton and spout off his narrative being the gospel. And when that didn’t happen, when he couldn’t inadvertently destroy Lydia’s happiness in the way that he perceives she destroyed his, he was left with nothing to say besides we’ll talk later. Milton’s response was perfection and basically said no we won’t.
2. From Johnie’s comments about how convincing Uche was to Miriam showing she’s not afraid of Uche, what did you think about the women in these episodes?
Lizzie: Miriam was fireeee, and I’m glad she read Uche for filth. He deserved it, and I find it very, very interesting that he feels much more comfortable yelling and being a general dick to WOC. And I really liked how the women stood up for Lydia, and for what they saw happen. But I wasn’t really digging Johnie questioning Lydia and seemingly taking Uche’s side. What was that?
Or, Stacy going all mean girl on Johnie, for that matter. If you’re as happy with Izzy as you say you are, then what is the point? Why do you care about Johnie or her relationship?
Lyra: Absolutely agree with Lizzie on this. Uche walked away from Miriam because he knew that he had zero control over her. So instead he went for pointed barbs about where she lives or her education. From where I’m standing, Miriam is doing some queen shit and getting her bag. You’re not on the same level as her, Uche. And I love how all the ladies backed Miriam like it was second nature.
Admittedly I am a little upset with Johnie. It didn’t feel like she was having an open conversation where multiple perspectives were heard. Instead, it felt like she just wanted to be contrary. And it was giving not believing victims, which I think Lydia is now after everything that happened with Uche in comparison to how the show started. Where Johnie herself didn’t really do wrong was in the way that Stacy came for her. It fell out of nowhere and like Stacy was threatened by Johnie even though Stacy got her man. It’s giving toxic behavior that pits women against each other because of a man. It got worse when Stacy AND Izzy acted like mean girls afterwards.
3. What does Stacy want? Because she said she wants angst that he’s afraid to lose her, for him to cook for her, and then proceeds to ask what he does for her.
Lizzie: Stacy wants a rich man, I think. She just doesn’t want to say that. Either that, or she’s unrealistic about her expectations because it seems like she’s always asking for more from Izzy, and the only way he’d have time to do all she wants is if he were rich. I don’t blame him for feeling like he will never be enough, because I left these episodes feeling like nothing and no one could ever be enough.
Lyra: I think Stacy wants Izzy to “man up” in the same way that Jackie wanted in season 4 of Love is Blind. Like she wants a man who is obsessed with her and is constantly afraid to lose her so he’ll fight for her. But she also wants someone who will help her pay 20,000 at a moment’s notice for the house. But she also wants a man who will pay for the meals because that’s just the way it is. Just admit that you want drama and that you want a rich man because your love flies first class.
4. Then there’s Izzy and the missing conversation about money. Should he have been more up-front? Why wasn’t he?
Lizzie: Oh, he absolutely should have. A lie of omission is still a lie, and if he lied, it’s because he KNEW it was something she wasn’t going to like. So that’s a red flag, for me. Not the credit score, the lie, and the way he tried to minimize it.
I think he lied because he knew it would make her doubt him. It’s just that lying compounded the problem and made it all worse. I can forget the offense, but not the offense and the lie kinda thing.
Lyra: Izzy should have told Stacy from the very start that he had some financial troubles. We don’t know the full extent of it because the conversation happened off-camera. But he didn’t tell her in the midst of them having some really serious conversations about life and finances. You can’t marry someone if you don’t have these hard conversations. And if you can’t have these hard conversations with your fiance, then you aren’t ready to get married to this person.
Keeping that in mind, I do understand that it must be hard to show your soft underbelly of what you might have fucked up financially in the past, especially on camera. But you signed up for the show and you knew that your life would be put under a microscope. You lied, buddy. Own up if you want this to work out.
5. Lydia and Milton are opposites that somehow work. But they’re clashing because of the way that they handle things. What do you make of that? Will they make it?
Lizzie: I think they’ll make it, but they really need to communicate with each other in order to get there on Love is Blind. I understand what Milton is saying about Lydia and her emotional responses, but he isn’t really meeting her halfway. He’s got this idea that the way he does things is the correct way, and Lydia should just see it his way and change. And perhaps there are things she can learn from him, but there are also things he can learn from her.
That’s why I think they work, honestly. They complement each other really well. Now it’s just about keeping the lines of communication open and making a commitment to try together every day.
Lyra: I think that Lydia and Milton will make it. They’re just at the beginning of their relationship and they haven’t figured out the kinks and grooves of listening. I know a lot of people act like listening is a natural thing. But it really isn’t. Half the time people aren’t listening when they’re having a conversation. They’re preparing of response. And that’s especially true when there’s an argument or a discussion. The only way that you’re going to properly take in someone’s worries, especially when it comes to your relationship, is by actively listening and seeing how you can work on it together. Despite how this episode ended, I think Lydia and Milton can get to this point and thrive.