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In a long line of shit the LGBTQ community has had to deal with, TERF’s are one of the most cringeworthy. These “trans-exclusionary radical feminists” live under the delusion that being trans is fake, that it’s some sort of cult, or the beginning of the end of safe spaces for women as they are being destroyed by trans women. And it’s simply not true!
Trans women are no danger to the queer community. In fact, they are a loving, fantastic, and most welcome addition to our LGBTQ community. They’re not here to erase women despite the cries of “female erasure” you hear TERF’s argue about. Trans women are here to join us in celebrating what it means to live, love, and learn about this world from the perspective of women. And there’s absolutely nothing wrogn with that.
So, without further ado, let’s talk about the dumpster fire that is the TERF movement!
1. They spread lies.
The TERF agenda is grounded in the thought that trans women are basically faking it to encroach into female spaces. As if all those years of painful self discovery and growth by trans women are worth nothing but an excuse for a “patriarchal man” to have welcome access to the women’s toilets. And that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Being trans or coming out as trans is NOT and will never be a man’s secret ploy to destroy womanhood. If anything, trans women want to part of the community they feel like they belong too. That’s why they go through the hormone therapies, that’s why they get surgery to make them feel comfortable in their own bodies, and why they fight so hard to be themselves.
2. They damage the LGBTQ movement.
TERF’s make the LGBTQ community look like a bunch of jerks. There, I said it. They make us look like we’re built on hate and can’t even accept those that are within our community. All that does is make outsiders think that we’re not as inclusive, kind, and welcoming or deserving of equality across the board.
With this comes the falling out of support from straight allies that are key in creating and supporting the laws that benefit our futures as queer people. Because who’s going to support or back a community that is frayed and has all its wires crossed as to what is truly important in our LGBTQ spaces? I would because I understand that all communities have issues. But others, outsiders, they won’t be able to tell the difference and will run at the first sign of haters like TERF’s.
3 .They divide us instead of uniting us.
Believe it or not, there are women within the TERF movement who want to take the L out of LGBTQ. Seriously, it’s a thing. These women think that trans women are an aggressive move by men to destroy lesbians and their way of living on purpose or because of misguided ignorance of what they are doing. So they want to grab the L and ride of into the ignorant sunset they’ve created. And I call bullshit.
Trans women should not divide the LGBTQ community. As queer people we understand the pain, damage, and heartache one can experience in a world that isn’t totally supportive of our queer lifestyles. So why would we nitpick, harass, and shame the trans women in our communities when we KNOW how much it hurts to be treated in this manner? It makes no sense.
4. They create spaces where trans people are not welcome.
As queer people we know the true value of the spaces we create for ourselves in the LGBTQ community. It’s where we can be absolutely and unapologetically free to be ourselves with no fear of retaliation. And just spending a couple days in this safe space can be game changing for you as a person, as a woman, and as a queer person. (Look at you, A-Camp.)
This trend of creating queer spaces where trans women are not included, allowed, or celebrated are a crock of shit. Trans women are women that are forever welcome in our LGBTQ spaces as we all know what it feels like to be left out. So, fuck these exclusionist assholes who perpetuate hate on one of the most delicate parts of our LGBTQ community.
And to the trans community, we got your back. Every step of the way and every moment until haters like the TERF’s are a thing of the past. We got you!
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