Sex. I know, I know, a weird way to start a review. But hey, when you aren’t having it, it starts to be all you think about. Hormones are a real bitch and the can guide you. They can tell you to do things that you know that you shouldn’t be doing.
Single Drunk Female isn’t afraid to go there.
When you are getting sober, you’re not supposed to have sex for the first year. Sam, well she’s horny AF, and she’s really in want for some human connection. Hell, she’s willing to settle for the vibrator (I can’t even discuss her trying to use it though and hearing her Mom having sex, that shit would be TRAUMA) – and we’re not hating. Sometimes the vibrator is better.
Imaginations work wonders people.
Sam is 180 days sober and it’s as if her body has woken up. It’s feeling all the feels and everything below the hips feels like if it’s not touched soon it’s going to break off. Olivia tries to explain to her that her body is starting to come alive. It’s not in stay sober mode only. She’s settled in for the long haul of sobriety, but her body – well, she’s gotta find an outlet.
Sam is horny as hell and rejects Olivias invitation to a sober dancing party. There has been meet cutes at the Pellegrino table. But Sam thinks that she’s laid down the ground work elsewhere. She is so attracted to James and thinks that she can get in there.
But hey, the year of no sex is a thing for a reason. And when she tries to make her move on James (which if you watch and see her moves, you know why she shouldn’t be dating) and kisses him, he rejects her. He knows that the rule is there for a reason and he doesn’t want to derail her sobriety.
But James doesn’t make it any better when he’s like “if we were on the same timeline…”
James, oh dear James, lets be smarter. You may be further along than her but that’s just a fucked up thing to say to her. It’s like here’s hope, but your vagina needs to grow cobwebs first.
When someone draws a hard line, that’s most likely only gonna send someone in another direction.
Felicia is the ever great best friend and tells Sam that she needs to get on the apps. Felicia thinks she knows how to crush it on apps – offer them free haircuts and tell them you aren’t looking for a father figure for your son. Not really applicable, but hey.
Sam doesn’t understand that this rule is there for a reason. She’s going to have to learn to relate to people on a different level. People need to make sure that they are not replacing an addiction with another addiction, but also that they are dealing with their emotions.
And Sam definitely isn’t ready. When she goes on a date, she can’t get into the mood. And everything is off. She leaves.
That’s the thing about emotions, when you start to feel them, you can’t outrun them. She likes James, but she also is learning to like herself and alcohol isn’t burying emotions.
Don’t get me wrong, James and Sam are endgame if we’re really talking, but I am less worried about end game and more about sobriety. However, that means that we’re going to see some pain happen.
And that’s okay.
When Felicia and Sam go over to Olivia’s for a party, Sam is cold towards James. I halfway think that it’s more about embarrassment than anything else. It’s okay to be embarrassed but it’s not okay to be a dick and Sam is definitely doing just that.
She’s definitely making mistakes in her sobriety and that’s a normal thing in life. We all make mistakes in life. But just because we make mistakes doesn’t mean that people have to listen to them or be accepting. Sam is lucky that there are people in her life that are going to be there no matter what. They’re listening to her. They want to get her through.
James is one of those people. So do I hate the fact that Sam had sex with someone else at Olivia’s party? Yes. Partially for James, but mostly for Sam. And especially with someone who knows that Sam is on a sobriety journey. Sorry, not sorry Olivia, don’t like you.
All of these things happening in Sams life are going to shape her. She’s growing and she’s learning how to be in touch with herself. She sees things through a different gaze. Yet, she’s still guided by her hormones and we’re hoping that doesn’t screw shit up for her.
And we’re also hoping that the show doesn’t become all about romantic relationships, because we want to see Sam’s progress. We want to see how her character changes.
Change is a beautiful thing. At least it can be.
- Carol is the absolute worst and I truly do not like her.
- Brit why did you let Carol get in your head.
- Sam trying to pick up on James legitimately gives me second hand embarrassment.
- Bobs sex laughter is traumatizing
- Apps are shit
- Felicia is truly the life of the party.
- Olivias first sober sexual experience made me laugh and I feel bad about it.
Single Drunk Female airs Thursdays on Freeform.