When I was younger, I believed that obviously the news media knew everything about a persons relationship. I mean they wouldn’t just be talking about part of something they knew. They obviously spoke to the people in the relationship, and their life was on display.
As I grew up, I realized that they are just like us – seeing things from the outside, and commenting on what they see or hear from second parties.
But as the age of social media came in – everything has changed. We all feel that we can make judgements and say things based on peoples Instagram, Twitter, Facebook posts. We don’t know if they are being cryptic or if they are saying something straight forward.
We’ve come to think that we understand everything based off what we read, when the reality is that we know nothing at all.
Last week, Ansel Elgort talked publicly about how he wants to find love with other people than his girlfriend.
“It doesn’t need to be sexual. I could be done sexually with my girlfriend,” Ansel said in an interview with The Times. “I think we’ve been pretty clear that I want to feel free to fall in love with people and that should be open, but sexually it can be closed off.”
“I’m in love with a bunch of my male friends who I’m not interested in having sex with, so why can’t I put the desire to have sex with women aside and let myself have love with women? I love Shailene Woodley and we never had anything sexual and that was great. There will probably be some sort of chemical thing at some point that you can’t help, but you just have to be disciplined and not be a f—— … We’re primitive beings,” Ansel continued.
And we all took it, but didn’t attack him. Because he’s a dude? Who knows.
But when it comes to his counterpart in West Side Story, Rachel Zegler, the trolls came out from under their bridges and decided to try and eat her alive on Twitter. They effectively forced the actress to take a break from social media, because of a tweet she wrote about Ansel.
The tweet has been deleted since then.
But trolls decided to attack her, calling her a ‘homewrecker.’
Guys, what she wrote – nothing wrong with it.
“There really aren’t enough words to describe the pride I have in Ansel‘s growth and beauty and literal magic he possesses on screen and off. Falling in love with him was easy. Happy wrap mi amor; catch ya on a fire escape sometime soon,” is what her tweet said.
I’ve fallen in love with people I have worked with. Doesn’t mean I’ve acted on it or let it control me. So why is it okay to treat her like she’s done something? Oh, cause she’s in the public eye? Bitch Trolls, please.
She tweeted on October 3rd, “the fact that i have to say something is absolutely absurd. but the DMs and the name-calling and throwing around the word homewrecker over me expressing genuine love i have for my coworker is heartbreaking and i don’t want any part of it. so peace for now, i guess. be nice.”
But then what she had to write after that breaks my heart.
The actress is taking a break from social media.
We as human beings have no right to make judgments on others love lives. We know nothing about them. And those that bullied her and trolled her should be fucking ashamed.
Go on and love whomever you want. Ansel and Violetta, have whatever kind of relationship you want.
Rachel, you did nothing wrong.
And trolls, go the fuck back under your damn bridge.