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This past week has been one of revelations and discovery. If you missed it, this week’s episode of Supernatural did something phenomenal to me, something game changing. It changed me from the inside out and I don’t think there’s any going back from where I am in the Supernatural fandom.
I, Lyra Hale, of sound mind and body am now a Destiel shipper.
Now, this hasn’t been an easy process. I’ve watched the show for 15 years and never got the sense of Dean Winchester and Castiel being a couple. It just never fit into the image that I had of them. And it took me til “The Trap” to realize that I had been wearing heteronormative rose colored glasses along despite the fact I myself am queer.
I know, messy. But it gets better.
Never heard of these heteronormative rose colored glasses? Don’t worry. I’ve got you covered. Rose colored glasses are a way of looking at something and not seeing the fault or error in said item/situation/thing because said glasses make you feel like everything is right as rain and there’s not an error in sight.
Combine those rose colored glasses with heteronormative biases and you’ve got a recipe for seeing Destiel as just a straight bromance when in reality it is so much more. And like me, we sometimes don’t realize we carry these biases; ones where the bonds between characters are ONLY seen through the lenses of heterosexual couples and pairings.
These biases, they stop viewers, aka me a couple days a ago before the big gay realization that is Destiel, from seeing the reality of the relationship these two men have with each other. Biases blind us to the truth and make it nearly impossible to break out of what we are used to as a means of seeing what could possibly be if we gave it a chance.
The reality is simple: if Dean Winchester and Castiel were a relationship between a man and a woman, everyone would be shipping it to the moon and back, especially after everything they’ve been through. I mean, there are loads of queer people who ship them now but if people didn’t wear these heteronormative rose colored glasses there would be more people shipping it and the possibility of Destiel becoming a real thing would grow.
Because as much as I want Destiel to happen (Yes, I know I’m late to the game but at least I’m here and everything is gay and merry) I don’t think The CW has the balls to actually go through with it because THEY are wearing heteronormative rose colored glasses themselves that blind them from the reality of the content they make and how queer people perceive it, day in and day out. They also are afraid.
The CW doesn’t want to rock the boat. They don’t want to take a chance and see it explode in their faces even if the possibility of a queer Dean Winchester and Castiel would be a game changer the LGBTQ community would love. Until then, I’m going to live in the world of fanfiction, which I’ve recently discovered is full of some of the nicest people on the internet. And maybe one day, the big wigs in charge will take off their heteronormative rose colored glasses and realize the truth of Destiel aka it’s pretty gay and we’re here for it.
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