Everyone who reads Fangirlish knows that I have a shit ton of opinions and some you may agree with. Some you may not. But I have my own unique way of talking about all of the things that I feel.
Except weight. When it comes to weight, I am kinda a bitch. I am a bitch because I think that weight should be one of the things that people offer no opinions on – because weight is somewhat emotional, mental, and is extremely personal.
And no matter what your weight – it’s yours. So all the opinions that the world has to offer about weight – they should kindly shut the fuck up and mind their own business.
When Adele posted a picture after her 100 pound weight loss, I will admit that I didn’t recognize her. Yet, I know what that is like, because when I lost 200 pounds, no one had a clue who I was. And as I continue to lose weight, I am sure that they will all have more opinions.
Yet, I still just don’t care.
Because weight is a personal thing. The reasons why I weighed 400 pounds and the reasons why I am losing weight are personal.
“I’ve had this discussion with many females in the industry. I felt more pressure from people actually when I was thin, when I was really thin and not super healthy because I just was worn out, just working so hard and not keeping healthy habits. But I felt more pressure. It was more of magazines shoved in front of you and, ‘This is what you’re competing with and we’ve got to compete with it.’ I can’t compete with that. That’s not even my image. That’s not who I am. That’s who they are. We’re all different and it’s okay. I fought more when I was thinner than I do now, because now I just walk in and I just look at them like, ‘I dare you to say something. I’m happy in my life. I’ll work on me in my time!’ she explained.
When it came to talking about Adele she had this to say.
“Even like you said, with Adele, I saw pictures of her too. I met Adele a long time ago and that girl is like a goddess. I don’t care what kind of weight she’s holding down; you walk in the room and she’s like a force, just physically captivating. If someone wanted to do it for themselves and for their health but that doesn’t change how many times I listened to her record,” she said and then continued with:
“Honestly, at my heaviest point, I was hired to be on The Voice. I got on the number one television show at my heaviest point, because it was right after I had kids and it was like they didn’t care. Paul hired me from NBC because he loved my personality, he loved that I connect with people and I’m really raw and real. It had nothing to do with my sex appeal or my look aesthetically. It had to do with me as a person. I think it’s really up to artists to force people to have that mentality.”
Weight is something that is ingrained in our culture and I think that it shouldn’t be what defines a person.
It shouldn’t be something that we teach our kids is a bad thing. We don’t know other peoples stories and we sure as fuck don’t know why they do or don’t lose or gain weight.
We have to judge people on who they are. Not on what they are on the outside.
Maybe we all stand to learn a little bit about what that means.