Love is Blind season 3 tests what it means to fall in love. Do looks, money, and other things matter when it comes to matters of the heart? Or can you fall in love with someone sight unseen? Again, we are watching a bunch of hopefuls navigate these questions in season 3 of the series. And since we can’t control selves, here is our breakdown of episodes 11-12 and a wrap-up in one!
If you want to check out our thoughts on episodes 1-4, click here. Oh, and don’t forget episodes 5-7. Check them out here! And episodes 8-10 here!
1. What do you think about Bartise saying “no” to Nancy? And did he deserve more of a smackdown in the reunion?
Lizzie: I wish I were surprised, but I thought he was gonna be the worst and he ended up being THE WORST. Did he ever have any intention of getting married? It felt like he was just around for his 15 minutes of fame, except he was smarter about it than Mr. Eyedrops. But honestly, Nancy, girl …you dodged a bullet. I’m glad he said no, because you would have tried till the end and he did not deserve that.
And man, all that time spent dunking on Cole when we could have been talking about Bartise moving on like basically the same day? Where was the energy for him?!
Lyra: I wasn’t surprised that Bartise said “no” to Nancy during their wedding. He’s a boy while she is a woman and he has no idea what he wants. He’s also not ready to take responsibility for ANYTHING that he’s done during their relationship or the wedding. Even at the reunion, he was just sitting there doing nothing and making me question why he wasn’t getting equal parts humble pie. Like, I know Nancy compartmentalizes real well, but she went after Cole like nothing. And I’m sitting here like, “Where was that energy for Bartise?” Like are they still together? Does she want to get back together? You do you. But yeah, she deserves better. Period.
2. What do you think about married couples? Surprised Colleen and Matt are together? Not shocked that Alexa and Brennon are together?
Lizzie: Not shocked at all Alexa and Brennon are still together, no. But really pleased at how happy they look, and how much it looks like they’ve grown in the past …man, has it been a year and a half since they filmed? Brennon and Alexa might be my favorite Love is Blind couple of all, I said what I said. Sometimes this crazy situation works, and though I know it’s the exception, not the rule, I’m glad we got at least one couple to root for.
As for Matt and Colleen, yes, a little shocked. I wasn’t sure Matt was done running away and self-sabotaging, even if he said yes to Colleen. Because he spent the entirety of the show basically looking for an out, and real life away from the cameras gives you plenty of those. I hope if they’re together it’s because he found it in himself to really commit instead of looking for excuses to bail. And I truly hope he learned to control his temper because I wasn’t his biggest fan during the show.
Lyra: Alexa and Brennon, we knew they would be good. If anything, I’m glad to see more of Alexa opening up. Because I do feel like she was kind of wooden before the Love is Blind reunion. But who wouldn’t be when they’re asked to fall in love on camera like that’s normal? It’s not. This time around we got to see what Brennon saw in Alexa; someone who stands up for her friends, is sarcastic, and cares for him just as much as he cares for her. And I’m absolutely down for that and the ways that their relationship has continued to blossom.
Colleen and Matt are a whole other story. What was up with Colleen’s body language? That woman was tense from start to finish. And when the Cole situation was brought up she became visibly upset to the point where I thought she was having a panic attack. It could’ve been that she was embarrassed by her previous actions. I get that. But what was up with the rest of the time on screen? Strained smiles, balled fists, and Matt looming over her all the time. Which, where was Matt being called out for his trigger-like mood swings during Love is Blind season 3 where he was about to drop Colleen like nothing? Nowhere. That’s where they were. Makes me feel like there’s something missing there.
3. How are we feeling about Raven and SK? The surprise couple that actually made it!
Lizzie: I’m actually so damn happy for them. It feels super hard to come back after a no at the altar, but they actually look like they might be better for it, unlike Damian and Giannina. And they get a chance to do something the other couples didn’t, which is …do things in their own time — and that is special. Raven looked so happy, and so did SK …so how can we be anything but happy for them? Was this the season of love after all?
Lyra: Let me tell you, I was so surprised when Raven and SK announced they were together. At first on Love is Blind, I wasn’t here for it. Raven seemed like she was there for her 5 minutes of fame. But along the way, they actually opened up to each other and looked happy. And who doesn’t want to see two people happy? I know I do. So to see the way that they look at each other shows that they’ve taken the time to sit down and get to know each other on a deeper level. They put in the work and this is the payoff. I truly hope that they continue living their best lives and grow at each other’s side.
4. What did you think about that Cuties scene? Did it change your mind about Zanab and Cole?
Lizzie: I mean …I think it added some context for sure, but I think the clearest thing about them was they just didn’t work together. They could never communicate, or meet in the middle …and that plus Cole’s immaturity was a toxic combination. But I think Cole — perhaps without meaning to, at least in that particular moment — exacerbated Zanab’s issues, and they were just never the kind of couple who could communicate about their triggers. They truly let roommate issues become marriage issues, unlike Alexa and Brennon, but their biggest problem was their personalities were like oil and water. Cole thought he was joking 98% of the time, but Zanab was taking his words to heart about 70% of that time. It was never gonna work.
As for the cuties scene in particular, he did say every word she accused him of saying, and the thing is — though I don’t think he was malicious in that moment — it’s hard to separate that moment from every other moment during the season, every other comment we saw and didn’t see. And even if his intention was never malicious, he’s a grown man who also has to take responsibility for his actions.
Lyra: I think the Cuties scene and the discussion during the reunion gave me tons of perspective on Zanab and Cole. For one, Zanab is seeing every single action by Cole through distortions formed by her own insecurities. Yes, he constantly puts his foot in his mouth and doesn’t think about his words. But to lay it all out by his feet and act like he’s the one who only has problems is also a disservice to Zanab. Even before this reunion, I was like, “Zanab, as much as he needs to practice active listening, so do you.” The reunion plus the Cuties story was her telling her story from her perspective without taking into account that they have footage and that not everything is black and white. There are greys.
As for Cole, I don’t think his words were malicious during the Cuties scene. Like at all. But it could’ve also been a pile-on moment for Zanab where she was thinking about all the small ways he had inadvertently triggered her insecurities and how he didn’t see the signs that she was struggling and hurting. So Cole could’ve been more aware, Zanab could’ve shared how she was feeling, and both of them could’ve come to the conclusion that they were way too different for each other without hurting each other in the way they did. Ultimately, no one won and I hope they find some grace and peace for each other and themselves.
5. What is one thing that you would’ve fixed about this reunion?
Lizzie: I would have roasted Bartise about 200% more, because he absolutely deserved it. And I think it was more than fair to bring up Matt’s behavior during the show, and no one ever did. I want to believe it’s because it’s been a long time for these people, and perhaps Matt is a different, better man …but we JUST watched it. I think it absolutely needed to be brought up because a part of me is still like …eh, Matt, you packed your bags and almost left because she went out with the girls. Talk about escalating.
Lyra: The one thing that I would fix about the Love is Blind season 3 reunion is the serving up of humble pie or smackdown. Because look, no matter what you feel about Cole, no one deserves to be brought to the point of tears. Yes, he needed to realize some things because he and Zanab obviously didn’t have a much-needed conversation after the wedding. But where was this same energy for Bartise and the way that he consistently told Nancy that he wasn’t attracted to her or that she basically wasn’t his type? Where was the same energy for Matt, who when you look him up online people think he’s a walking red flag ready to pop? I needed that energy and I didn’t get it. What a disappointment. Truly.
6. Overall, what did you think about this season?
Lizzie: I really enjoyed this season. There was drama galore, a couple to root for, a surprise couple that made me care about them despite my better instincts, a villain or two …I mean, the perfect reality TV mix, what can I say? Bring on Season 4!
Lyra: Overall, this season of Love is Blind is better than the rest. Period. It might not be on the drama scale better than season 2. But it gave me Alexa and Brennon and they’re shot up to my number one couple of the show. Sorry, not sorry, season 1. But I can’t stop thinking about that biphobic comment from my previous fav couple. Now that I think about it, maybe Raven and SK are my number 2. Anyway, I’m down for more and can’t wait for the drama of season 4!
OMG! I love these new marriage shows! And I was so shocked and bored and everything in between by each couple!
The tall couple that got married was boring. I can’t even remember their names. And the they were so into everyone else’s business! That’s messy and like Karen like! Like Mind you’re business! You’re there so you can learn more and more about each other and fall deeper in like and love each day NOT to be all up in someone else’s business! They made me so mad at the reunion trying to get into other grown folks business and throw shade and tell other people off! It was like they all ganged up on Cole and Bartis when everyone has no room to talk! They can all be put under a microscope and be judged equally! Ain’t nobody perfect!!
The short couple Matt and Colleen that got married shocked me because I didn’t see that they were so in love I just saw the guy wanting to call it off every scene! He didn’t seem to love her or trust her at all, I think he felt he couldn’t ever find anyone else that attractive so he just said a hail Mary and married her!
Ok Bartis was crazy It felt like he was just leading Nancy on and Nancy seemed crazy Af because she acted like she didn’t see what was going on but she’s a grown ass woman she knew DAM well Bartis was not into her, but he got some Good Ass D!! Yup! She stayed for the D! Knowing dam well he wasn’t gonna marry her, she made herself look so dumb and crazy. I liked her personality but her strategy to stick it out the way she went about it was wack as hell! Bartis seems like a big manipulative dick. He didn’t give any valid or believable reasons for saying No at the alter. He said he couldn’t move past his lack of attraction for her but I think the cameraman and producer liked looking at his ass on camera so they told him to just stick it out and stay on the show, they probably paid him extra for staying! Plus he did like Nancy’s big titties! So you know he liked all that when he was getting it! The time he stopped having sex with her he was probably entertaining other women probably fucking the cameraman behind the screens and watching a bunch of porn so he didn’t need Nancy at the moment! But his whole response at the reunion was BULL SHIT! We ALL wanna here the TRUTH! Cuz we all know he wasn’t telling the truth and that was the most frustrating couple of the whole show!
Ok Cole and Zenab!!! **inhales, exhales** He was so cute! And she was a freaking sick in the mud! OMG!! She made me NOT wanna watch the show! I hated her. Why put that man through ALL the drama! The BULL SHIT! and then switch up and tell him no at the alter!! He’s gonna look back at this and see how horribly you manipulated into thinking he was so bad and so wrong just because you have RIDICULOUS insecurities about your self image! So what you’re not his typical physical type that man really faught hard for you and loved! He knew he wanted you regardless or your constant nagging and constant insecurities and content inability to take a flipping Joke!! AHHHHHH! You’re so fucking frustrating you’re not even fuckable because your Dom role is rooted in selfishness and emotional immaturity. Like you don’t have any intention on forgiving him especially when you get offended by literally EVERYTHING. You’re incapable of forgiveness. And you’re the evil one, I can see you devil horns. You’re just a horrible person. Like how you did Cole at the alter was unforgivable but yet he found it in his heart to forgive you. Like I know you planned this mans ruin! Like you’re so mad at your life that you wanted to take all your anger and rage out on Cole! I swear it was live you were BEATING him all through the show but then telling him you love him! Like battered wife syndrome. Then at the alter you just took the mask completely off and showed your devil face and just beat him and nailed him to the cross like Jesus AND ripped his sole out of his body then pulled up your beautiful dress that you cared about more than anything else and took a shit on him!!! If you don’t chill out you’re gonna end up by yourself for the rest of your life.
Ok! Now for the most interesting couple! Mr Africa and Ms Smokeshow! I LOVED seeing them grow throughout the whole show and even after the show they’re still growing together! She was cold and reserved but she is still cool! She does open up and express herself and she works very hard on her body and her mind! She’s made a good life for herself. Mr Africa! He was kind of confusing but he was so likeable throughout until the end! He was telling her her was gonna marry her and seemed so into marrying her and making sure everything was perfect for the wedding! They seemed so in love! He seemed so in love! Her seemed so SURE! Then turns around and says I do NOT! WTF. The way Nick Lashay’s wife expressed what she felt watching that happen in that moment was exactly how we all felt! She embodied that moment for us all especially the bride to beeeeeeeee! So sad! I don’t get how she bounced back from that! Mr Africa must got some superb tongue game cuz BABY! When I tell you she’s all up his **insert word here* I feel like he could do her so wrong and she would just be blind to it! But I am glad they are still in love and working out there logistics! She will ultimately compromise because she wants to marry him! I’m ah be honest I wanna understand more of their dynamic! Like, we all wanna see more with them and see what happens next!
I wanna see Cole get another chance with a woman that will really ACTUALLY love him. He deserves that. Bartis would be boring and inauthentic but I would love to watch what he does with his body. We obviously need to see Zenab be blown wide open! Like, someone needs to just break her! She needs to be SHOOK to the core. And my baby Nancyyyyyy! I know we ALL wanna see her BE loved by a very good very interesting grown man that can compliment her swag and her energy and her bank roll! I would looooove to watch a romantic show with Nancy as the star!
I hope they all get to read this! I loved getting to read them and learn and grow with them and gain hope for real love and marriage for everyone!